I’ve been listening to a lot of Rachel Hollis lately. She’s a kick-butt entrepreneur and influencer who built a multi-million dollar media company on the platform of motivating women to DREAM REALLY BIG.
I like what she has to say and how she says it: authentically. (In Yoga Philosophy authenticity and speaking truth is called satya.) And I also think The Dreaming Big Thing can be disorienting and slightly misdirected.
It’s just that I talk to women who are so indelibly overwhelmed with doing things BIGGER: bigger birthday parties, bigger promotions, bigger responsibilities, bigger purses, bigger calendars, bigger minivans, bigger social followings, bigger involvement in all things Kate Spade, that their sense of inner contentment (santosha) shrinks smaller and smaller by the day, until their stress is the biggest thing in their overwhelmed/underwhelmed lives.
The best advice I’ve heard that speaks to this feeling of being unfulfilled within an overfilled schedule is from Becca Stevens in her book Love Heals:
“If you stress because you feel like your glass is half empty most of the time, your cup may be too big.”
Don’t get me wrong, I’m a Big Fan of Dreaming Big. AND I also think that my dreams need to be very, very SMALL and SIMPLE so that I don’t feel continuously half empty.
In 2016 I wrote a blog post called Dream Away where I shared my 3 biggest/ smallest dreams: to teach, to travel and to love.
These 3 Simple Dreams create a precise foundation for my daily decisions. In order to keep my cup small, I use them as a heuristic: if it doesn’t help me do these 3 things with increasing integrity and excellence, I don’t do it.
This week, challenge yourself to spend time in contemplation; what 3 Simple Words can narrowly define your biggest dreams so that your cup feels like its overflowing? How can you shrink your cup so that it stays full?