learning to love your essence.

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Meditation taught me that to love someone doesn’t require them to be without flaws or to ignore the fullness of who they are; to love someone is simply to care deeply for their well-being.
When we love, we naturally incline toward nurture, acceptance, grace, forgiveness and actions that make space for wholeness to emerge. Maintaining and caring for well-being becomes the primary action and intention of the relationship.”

The people I love most in the world are perfection.

They always make mistakes and they apologize for their mistakes. They laugh loudly and forget appointments and show up late and smile sheepishly and snap at me when they are tired or hungry or bug-eyed overwhelmed. They are tall and they are short; they are a little overweight and a little underweight. They are sometimes frazzled and other times they are put together and impeccably dressed.

They sometimes call me at weird times of the day to rant their fears and unintelligible misunderstandings and they sometimes hug me deeply and with meaning at the exact moment when I feel unmoored and disconnected. They are unhealed and they are healing; they are working through profound emotional trauma and they are also ministers in their own right, gracing me and their families with wisdom and acceptance.

They are perfect and they are VERY VERY MESSY HUMAN BEINGS… and, because of all this messiness, I care deeply for their well-being.

Through years of emotional discernment and chasing joy and looking deeply for wonder and listening deeply through meditation, I’ve learned that even I belong in this category of humans. The category being: people who are messy and perfect and deserve to be loved into wholeness and loved at their essence.

Meditation taught me that to love someone doesn’t require them to be without flaws or to ignore the fullness of who they are; to love someone is simply to care deeply for their well-being.

When we love, we naturally incline toward nurture, acceptance, grace, forgiveness and actions that make space for wholeness to emerge. Maintaining and caring for well-being becomes the primary action and intention of the relationship.

I’ve witnessed powerful and profound effects within the hearts and lives of my meditation students when they use their meditation time to deliberately nurture their well-being. One student told me that in learning to meditate she uncovered her belief that she didn’t deserve health and well-being. Her meditation practice then became a deliberate time of remembering how to care for herself, how to remind herself that she was perfectly imperfect and worthy of love.

Here is the meditation I gave her; I hope it helps you remember which category of humans you belong to: the one that is perfect, in essence.

Learning to Love Your Essence Meditation:

Happy loving,

-lisa

 

 

re-set your day through meditation.

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Did I tell you about our new washing machine? A month after we moved in to our new house, our washing machine stopped draining. It would get halfway through a cycle, flash the dreaded F2 error code and act like an almighty flood was coming.  My Ironman figured out a way to “fix” it through a complicated procedure of button pushing with very specific intermittent waiting times.

It was not a fix. I mean, I had to truck myself down those basement stairs every 4.5 to 6.7 minutes to re-set/drain/re-start that washing machine. 

Meditation, too, is like a re-set button during my day. And some days, I have to hit it a few times before I get my mood fixed. 

But every time I stop, take a deep breath, consciously dwell with my inhale and my exhale, I reaffirm a healthy relationship with my body, my mind, my spirit.

When I do this, I draw my scattered mind back to the present moment and am able to make wise, deliberate choices. I’m kinder and more empathetic. When I’m able to do this, I feel a little more fresh, more focused, more ready for the day.


When I teach meditation, I teach that there are five simple steps to organizing a formal meditation practice.

  1. Establish a posture that leads to a feeling of stillness. Move around a little bit. No one expects you to be perfectly statue-still the first time you hit the re-set button.
  2. Take a few deep, diaphragmatic inhales and exhales. Clear out distracting thoughts.
  3.  Systematically relax your body. Release a little physical tension. You know how good it feels to relax, you may not know how much tension you are unconsciously holding on to.
  4. Focus on the natural breath entering and exiting your body. Notice everything about the rhythm and feel of the breath. Give yourself the job of being in one place, at one time, appreciating your breath.
  5. Refine your mental focus by repeating a phrase silently. Give your thinking mind something positive to think about it. A mantra works wonders.

 

To get you started with this “re-set,” here’s a few of my favorite meditation practices:

Present Moment, Wonderful Moment

Beginning Breath Meditation

 


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28 day meditation challenge with lisa.

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28 day meditation challenge with lisa

beginning May 20, 2020

Enroll to receive a daily text reminder that invites you to dwell in a moment of mindfulness. Each text will contain a link taking you directly to an Audio Guided Meditation and daily inspiration.

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Meditation is a skill that can be learned and practiced. Initially, looking for a space of quiet stillness between your thoughts can confirm just how busy your mind really is. It may feel difficult, nearly impossible, to slow down your thoughts. However, with time and practice, you can learn to distinguish individual thoughts and clearly examine the quality of each thought.  

Meditation is an invitation to become intimately aware of each thought moving through your awareness so that you can discern which thoughts are helpful in your healing journey and which thoughts set the stage for unease and frustration.

With this awareness, you gain the skill of choosing which thoughts to give your time and energy; you gain the ability to perceive your mental landscape with wisdom and clarity.

This awareness allows you to respond with compassion and ultimately uncover an inner contentment and ease.  


Join me for a 28 Day Meditation Challenge Beginning May 20, 2020

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Each text will contain a link taking you directly to an Audio Guided Meditation and daily inspiration.

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You’ll get your first text on May 20, 2020! Please provide phone number when enrolling. Please note, your phone number will be secure and you will be automatically un-enrolled at the end of the 28 day challenge. Enrollment closes on May 19, 2020.